Today’s Gift on the Joy. Peace. Love. @ Home advent calendar for parents
Family Tickets to the “Calm Anger” Parent + Child Workshop
How to receive this gift? Take the fun quiz on the Parent Advent Calendar today and you could be the lucky one to win the draw.
Today’s gift invites BOTH disagreeing parties to join in fun activities and guided discussions to
- Clarify the issue of dispute
- Identify triggers to outbursts
- TOGETHER find solutions to gain agreement
- Make a routine chart to stay on track
Parents and children leave with a practical action plan to BOTH avoid outbursts AND resolve them quickly when they happen.
And it’s fun!
WHO is the REAL opponent?
The parent, the spouse, the child, or the issue?
Isn’t is amazing how a simple issue can suddenly escalate into a battle between parent and kid? In our coaching we hear worried parents ask, “What is wrong with my child?… What is wrong with ME?!”
“Children who argue have good character qualities like persistence, perseverance, determination, creativity, and an ability to communicate ideas. The problem with arguing is that your child views you as an obstacle.”
Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, in Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids!
How to get out of arguing with children?
MAKE THE ISSUE THE OPPONENT.
Let parent and child partner together in finding a solution.
It takes two people to have an argument.
And BOTH arguers contribute to the disagreement and BOTH can orient the exchange towards peace.
Miller and Turansky remind us that the subjects we argue about are often not THAT important.
IT IS THE RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER.
Images by Madi Robson from Unsplash, SoSoooper, and LetMeColor.com