Our favorite activity about family for a SoSooper New Year!

The Family Feedback

One of our most precious family moments comes after Christmas.  That’s when we share what each person does well and how we can be even stronger as an individual and as a family.

We” means the kids start with the feedback and Mom & Dad L.I.S.T.E.N.

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The structured process keeps discussion positive.  Each child gets to share:
ONE THING that Mom or Dad do that they love (and want them to keep doing)
– ONE THING that would hugely improve family life for them.  Parents listen.  

You might be surprised by the suggestions!  It might be a no-brainer “YES.”  (My son asked, “No more lemon cake.”)  Other requests could merit deeper discussion.  (“More screen time.”  “No veggies.”)  Talk it over while everyone is calm and together. 

We tried The Family Feedback

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Download Free Tools

SoSooper prepared some worksheets for you:

  • to prepare
  • to succeed
  • to remember

Click here to get your free downloads.

Ask questions & Tell us how it went

We’d love to hear from you.  Give us YOUR feedback too!

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The Family Feedback with little children

How much can your young child tell you about YOUR job as a parent?

Quite a lot.

By listening you share encouraging words for your kids.

The Family Feedback with tots

The Family Feedback is ONE GREAT FAMILY TIME where kids give feedback to parents. They start with the good stuff ūüôā and move onto deeper discussion.  Read more here.

For very young kids, we stick to sharing family highlights.  

You want your kids to associate “family” with “fun”?  Then ask them to tell you about a fun time with Mom or Dad.  This strengthens the neural messaging in their brains so that they can more easily access memories of great times as a family.  

Our brain is amazing…and malleable.

Ask, “Tell me about a time you felt really happy with us.”

“When we played ball together.”

Help your child fully recall with the experience through specific and factual questions.

“What color was our ball?” “Was it before or after lunch?” “Who else was playing with us?”

Then gently probe for what generated the positive emotions.

“What was soooooo great?” “Which part made you feel the most special?”  “What did you do to show you were happy?”

Thank your child.  

“Your telling me when you were happy makes me very happy too.  Thanks, Darling.”

We tried it & loved it

Here’s what one mother shared after a SoSooper workshop where she and her three year old daughter enjoyed such a conversation:

“My daughter was probably a little bit young (only 3) and I think was struggling to really engage with the activities. However, even though she dealt with it on her level, I think she still got a lot out of the experience ‚Äď and found it nice that it was a time where mummy was ready to listen to her and find out what she found fun and loving about being in our family.

This workshop reminded me that we do all right as a family (eating together, playing together, respecting each other). As I‚Äôm sure you know only too well ‚Äď it‚Äôs a tricky job, mummying, and can seem very unrewarding sometimes. If I were a business, (actually I‚Äôm a secondary school teacher) I wouldn‚Äôt put up with clients who were so demanding and so seemingly ungrateful for all my efforts. I think what you‚Äôre doing is so important ‚Äď just like in any job, you have training for that ‚Äėshot in the arm‚Äô of enthusiasm and clarity to do your job better every day. Parents need that more than anyone!”

Download Free Tools

SoSooper prepared some worksheets for you:

  • to prepare
  • to succeed
  • to remember

Click here to get your free downloads.

Build a Thriving Family Culture

Games are fun.  AND they have a purpose & rules.

What if¬†life–and the culture of our families–were like a game: ¬†

  • fun
  • with a purpose
  • with clear¬†guidelines¬†to know how to excel, to be one’s best together ūüôā

Life’s¬†BIG rules are called¬†values. ¬†These foundational principles express an¬†understanding of¬†right & wrong, of helpful vs. harmful. ¬†Communities, like family, thrive with positive and common values.

Families enjoy a culture where everyone thrives when “the way WE do things” is clear, helpful, and practiced by all.

The BUILD A THRIVING FAMILY CULTURE web-workshop enables parents & children, together, BOTH to identify the essential guiding principles for their home AND to put them into action.

What You Gain

Join us as we guide parents & kids¬†in making family life fun, purpose-filled, and a means¬†for all to thrive. ¬†We’ll help you

  • Identify your top KEY VALUES
  • Explore how these principles translate into action
  • Create a personalized and visual reminder to keep practicing those values at home.

 

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What is it?

It‚Äôs ¬Ĺ hour of time well spent in¬†rich parent-child discussion. ¬†¬†This is an online event for parents with their children. You connect through the Internet from the comfort of your couch and cuddle up with your kids. ¬†We guide you in a family discussion and a simple craft.

With SOSOOPER Web-Workshops

– Moms and dads establish a framework .
– Kids get heard.
– Everyone wins.

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With whom? How?  When? How much?

Our online seminars are for parents AND their children.  These facilitated family discussions are led by Denise Dampierre, founder and CEO of SoSooper where we re-open dialogue between parents & kids.

  • Schedule an online seminar just for your family. Send your request and date preferences.¬† We‚Äôll work it out.¬† Personalized seminars run $40 per ¬Ĺ hour.
  • Contact us to ask about¬†group online seminar. ¬†See our Calendar for upcoming dates.¬† Participation to be discussed.

Sign up for our Build a Thriving Family Culture online seminar to create a family culture where everyone thrives.

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What folks say:
‘Build a Thriving Family Culture’¬†is SOSOOPER!

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This is Sabrina here!
I enjoyed the activities a lot! ¬† Our family chose ‚ÄėRespect‚ÄĚ as main value. ¬† The workshop¬†made me really think about how I should be respectful at different times of the day. I never really thought about the different ways thoroughly.
Thank you for that!

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Thank you so much for organizing the activities for us! I found that they really made me think about family values and how i can put them into action. I also found it interesting to hear what my mother, little sister and I thought about the different ways we could be respectful and at different times. The activities made me think about values and respect from a different and deeper perspective!
Thanks.

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Dear Denise,

A gigantic and heartfelt thank-you for last evening’s web workshop! As you must have read between the lines in their respective emails, Naomi and Sabrina were completely and pleasantly surprised as they had barely any clue of what to expect although we had printed out the worksheets together.

What was amazing was how all three of us focused on respect amongst all the values ‚Äď maybe it was the fact that we keep stressing on the need for this or the fact that we often tend to lose track of it amidst our daily stresses and hectic routines. It was instant agreement on the prized value.

The girls are both committed participants now and you must have received their feedback forms already! Thank you so much for also replying to them instantly and giving them so much encouragement. You are absolutely right in advising us to keep trying even if we stumble and rise again.

I think the big change is that we are learning to remove ourselves from the situation and are learning to view it objectively from various angles. Taking a cue from you, we have also been trying to role play to learn more about our feelings, thoughts and actions!

Thank you again, Denise, for becoming a part of our family life on a day-to-day basis!
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Help Teens Dream…and Make their Goals Come True

Everything I needed to know about parenting teens, I learned at the Harvard Business School.

I’m only kind of kidding.¬†Let’s start with strategy & action plan…

…and market segmentation.¬† To sign up or go directly to the download , click below.

Continue reading “Help Teens Dream…and Make their Goals Come True”

Grow Kindness – Parent Prep & Follow Up

Want more kindness at home?  Make a plan, put it into action, and follow through.

Centered around the Grow Kindness workshop, we help parents to define their goals and to get the kids excited to join in the effort.

We also help moms and dads follow up effectively with their children after the Grow Kindness workshop.

Parent Prep consists of a pre-workshop video.

You can choose to join the follow up webinar or select the personalized option which addresses your specific concerns and needs.

 

Grow Kindness Workshop

What would your home look, feel, and sound like with more kindness?

Nice…Loverrrrly…..ABSOLUTELY AWESOME!

We can always benefit from additional kindness.  How do we get it? How do we grow it?

SoSooper is taking a creative perspective on the richness of kindness.  What if the medium of exchange in our homes were kindness?

Mom offers Son benevolence when he spills his milk and patiently teaches him to clean it up.  Dad listens with forbearance as Child bemoans the broken toy.  When he reminds her that the treasure broke because she and Brother fought over it, he does so tenderly and extending grace.  Parents remain courteous while resolving a conflict.  Daughter accepts to set the table with good will.  Parents affectionately wish their Teen a fun outing AND remind her amiably of her curfew

What You Gain

Join us as we take an entrepreneurial look at growing kindness.  We’ll explore

  • Identify your family‚Äôs awesomeness and your behaviors favor the¬†IN-COME¬†of kindness
  • Take stock of the words and actions in your household that are at the¬†EXPENSE¬†of ‚Äúgentillesse.‚Ä̬† These are your oppertoooniteez to lurn.
  • Plan fun ways for the entire family to BENEFIT from your growing solicitude.

We‚Äôll follow how the B____ kids who, through their ultra-cute lemonade stand, gain more mon(ey), more fun, and more yum(my)…all because they built on the foundation of kindness.

We conclude every seminar with a practical application.  This time, participants make Kindness Gifts.

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What is it?

It‚Äôs ¬Ĺ hour of time well spent in¬†rich parent-child discussion. ¬†¬†This is an online event for parents with their children. You connect through the Internet from the comfort of your couch and cuddle up with your kids. ¬†We guide you in a family discussion and a simple craft.

With SOSOOPER Web-Workshops

– Moms and dads establish a framework .
– Kids get heard.
– Everyone wins.

 With whom? How?  When? How much?

Our online seminars are for parents AND their children.  These facilitated family discussions are led by Denise Dampierre, founder and CEO of SoSooper Families.

  • Join a group online seminar. See our Calendar for upcoming dates.¬† Participation is $20 per family.
  • Schedule an online seminar just for your family. Send your request and date preferences.¬† We‚Äôll work it out.¬† Personalized seminars run $40 per ¬Ĺ hour.

Sign up for our Grow Kindness online seminar to help family blossom with encouragement and a doable steps to be helpful, considerate, and thankful.

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Thank you for the workshop and¬†for¬†your dedication to help our family grow¬†happier and stronger…

We just had a great time together doing this, the children and I loved taking that moment to tell (and write down) to one another that we love eachother and what we appreciate most. The children asked for more of it, so I wish I can find more to print on your web site.
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The workshop was great: the theme was clear and catchy.  I presonally appreciated the parallel with the business development.  It made it clear that the success our family is tied to our input of love and joy.

The illustrated slide show is good too:  clear and simple.   We got your message:  there is value (intangible and even tangible) to investing time together to demonstrating love.

Thanks.
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My daughter was probably a little bit young (only 3) and I think was struggling to really engage with the activities. However, even though she dealt with it on her level, I think she still got a lot out of the experience – and found it nice that it was a time where mummy was ready to listen to her and find out what she found fun and loving about being in our family.

This workshop¬†reminded me that we do all right as a family (eating together, playing together, respecting each other). As I’m sure you know only too well – it’s a tricky job, mummying, and can seem very unrewarding sometimes. If I were a business, (actually I’m a secondary school teacher) I wouldn’t put up with clients who were so demanding and so seemingly ungrateful for all my efforts. I think what you’re doing is so important – just like in any job, you have training for that ‘shot in the arm’ of enthusiasm and clarity to do your job better every day. Parents need that more than anyone!
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Workshop parents and kids together

Grow Kindness

What would your home look, feel, and sound like with more kindness?

Nice…Loverrrrly…..ABSOLUTELY AWESOME!

We can always benefit from additional kindness.  How do we get it? How do we grow it?

SoSooper is taking a creative perspective on the richness of kindness.  What if the medium of exchange in our homes were kindness?

Mom offers Son benevolence when he spills his milk and patiently teaches him to clean it up.  Dad listens with forbearance as Child bemoans the broken toy.  When he reminds her that the treasure broke because she and Brother fought over it, he does so tenderly and extending grace.  Parents remain courteous while resolving a conflict.  Daughter accepts to set the table with good will.  Parents affectionately wish their Teen a fun outing AND remind her amiably of her curfew

What You Gain

Join us as we take an entrepreneurial look at growing kindness.  We’ll explore

  • Identify your family‚Äôs awesomeness and your behaviors favor the¬†IN-COME¬†of kindness
  • Take stock of the words and actions in your household that are at the¬†EXPENSE¬†of ‚Äúgentillesse.‚Ä̬† These are your oppertoooniteez to lurn.
  • Plan fun ways for the entire family to BENEFIT from your growing solicitude.

We‚Äôll follow how the B____ kids who, through their ultra-cute lemonade stand, gain more mon(ey), more fun, and more yum(my)…all because they built on the foundation of kindness.

We conclude every seminar with a practical application.  This time, participants make Kindness Gifts.

White boy thanking black woman

What is it?

It‚Äôs ¬Ĺ hour of time well spent in¬†rich parent-child discussion. ¬†¬†This is an online event for parents with their children. You connect through the Internet from the comfort of your couch and cuddle up with your kids. ¬†We guide you in a family discussion and a simple craft.

With SOSOOPER Web-Workshops

– Moms and dads establish a framework .
– Kids get heard.
– Everyone wins.

 With whom? How?  When? How much?

Our online seminars are for parents AND their children.  These facilitated family discussions are led by Denise Dampierre, founder and CEO of SoSooper Families.

  • Join a group online seminar. See our Calendar for upcoming dates.¬† Participation is $20 per family.
  • Schedule an online seminar just for your family. Send your request and date preferences.¬† We‚Äôll work it out.¬† Personalized seminars run $40 per ¬Ĺ hour.

Sign up for our Grow Kindness online seminar to help family blossom with encouragement and a doable steps to be helpful, considerate, and thankful.

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Thank you for the workshop and¬†for¬†your dedication to help our family grow¬†happier and stronger…

We just had a great time together doing this, the children and I loved taking that moment to tell (and write down) to one another that we love eachother and what we appreciate most. The children asked for more of it, so I wish I can find more to print on your web site.
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The workshop was great: the theme was clear and catchy.  I presonally appreciated the parallel with the business development.  It made it clear that the success our family is tied to our input of love and joy.

The illustrated slide show is good too:  clear and simple.   We got your message:  there is value (intangible and even tangible) to investing time together to demonstrating love.

Thanks.
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[av_testimonial_single src=” name=’Helen’ subtitle=’Great for me & my 3 year old’ link=” linktext=”]
My daughter was probably a little bit young (only 3) and I think was struggling to really engage with the activities. However, even though she dealt with it on her level, I think she still got a lot out of the experience – and found it nice that it was a time where mummy was ready to listen to her and find out what she found fun and loving about being in our family.

This workshop¬†reminded me that we do all right as a family (eating together, playing together, respecting each other). As I’m sure you know only too well – it’s a tricky job, mummying, and can seem very unrewarding sometimes. If I were a business, (actually I’m a secondary school teacher) I wouldn’t put up with clients who were so demanding and so seemingly ungrateful for all my efforts. I think what you’re doing is so important – just like in any job, you have training for that ‘shot in the arm’ of enthusiasm and clarity to do your job better every day. Parents need that more than anyone!
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Workshop parents and kids together

Family Feedback from Kids

Do you know what your kids LOVE about your family?  When did you last ask and really listen?

How about the ONE THING that would hugely improve family life for them?

We often get their feedback through passing comments like:

“Thanks for the cookie.” ¬†(aaah!)

“Brush teeth? ¬†I did it….yesterday.” ¬†(huh?)

“Dad, you just don’t get it.” ¬†(ouch…)

These tidbits contribute to your¬†relationship in tiny bits. ¬†Kids’ Family Feedback¬†creates the time and the conditions for positive give and take.

Parents will learn

  • ONE GREAT BEHAVIOR: ¬†what each child thinks you¬†do well and wants you to keep doing
  • ONE BEHAVIOR TO TWEAK: what bothers them, why that is important, and what they wish would happen instead

Kids THRIVE on being heard. ¬†They get center stage with a mission to make family be its best. ¬†It’s a responsibility. ¬†The SOSOOPER online seminar helps them live up to it and coaches them in giving¬†feeback respectfully and positively.

What you gain

  • Proof¬†that kids know your weaknesses¬†AND¬†love you still
  • Clarification of the life-skills your kids want you to model for them. ¬†Phew. ¬†You need not be perfect everywhere simultaneously!
  • Increased trust as children hear you listen attentively.
  • Practical solutions to family challenges
  • Great memories that Home is indeed Sweet Home

What is it?

It‚Äôs ¬Ĺ hour of time well spent.¬† Transform weeks of nagging about school work into succinct responsibility-building reminders to help kids be motivated to do their best.

With whom? How?  When? How much?

Our online seminars are for parents AND their children.  These facilitated family discussions are led by Denise Dampierre, founder and CEO of SoSooper Families.

  • Join a group online seminar. See our Calendar for upcoming dates.¬† Participation is $20 per family.
  • Schedule an online seminar just for your family. Send your request and date preferences.¬† We‚Äôll work it out.¬† Personalized seminars run $40 per ¬Ĺ hour.

Sign up for our Family Feedback from Kids online seminar to help family grow and thrive.

Talking Virtues and Values with Kids without Preaching

When our eldest child was three years old he popped this question: ‚ÄúAre you friends with all of the people at work?‚ÄĚ
I answered simply for his age and already envisioned deep discussions on friendship, respect, and,yes, even office politics!

Then time zooooomed by and I finally paused long enough to wonder what happened with those conversations. Would we ever have them? Continue reading “Talking Virtues and Values with Kids without Preaching”

“Good” parents don’t need tips or tools. True or False?

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A friend asked a great question:¬† ‚ÄúWhy should parents need help?¬† Aren‚Äôt we (moms and dads) supposed to know‚Ķ.and if we get help does that mean we messed up along the way?‚ÄĚ

Let’s take a step back.

Fresh Parenting Perspective

Have you ever stood VERY CLOSE to a tree, like with your nose touching the bark, and SIMULTANEOUSLY admired the forest?  Probably not.

When we have our nose to the grindstone (le nez dans le guidon) it is like a camera with a high zoooom lens.  We see details of the specifics in front of us and lose sight of the big picture.

Step back from the tree bark…to get a glimpse of the forest and your destination.

And have you noticed how pain acts in a similar fashion?

Time is short.  We want relief NOW.  No waiting. 

I love how the 17th century gambler, Chevalier de M√©r√©, puts it, ‚ÄúIl n‚Äôest pas bon d‚Äô√™tre malheureux mais il est bon de l‚Äôavoir √©t√©.‚ÄĚ (‚ÄúIt is not good to be sad, but it is good to have been.‚ÄĚ)

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Happy sad finger faces

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In at least one way parenting and gambling are similar:  the HIGHs can be extraordinary and the LOWs can be extraordinarily discouraging.

And in those moments of doubt, a helping hand….helps.

Parents’ Helping Hand

That’s the SOSOOPER¬†goal. ¬†To¬†enable parents to take a step back and to regain hope and courage to persist, even to thrive.

We designed online workshops to give parents and their children opportunities to over challenges together.

Many parenting experts encourage (instruct) moms and dads to take time off.  But how?  When?

An event with an outside person facilitates the process.  SoSooper workshops revisit sensitive issues from a fun and fresh perspective.  The focus is on solutions, not on blame…therefore not on the pain that family members suffer.  The online workshops help turn subjects of tension into opportunities of learning.

Of course parents can do this on their own too.  And yet, realizing the need to step back AND committing to doing so requires a change of posture.  That’s tough.  An outside catalyst, such as a person, an event, an activity, helps change happen more smoothly.

I believe parents are leaders.  It is a common professional practice to organize leadership seminars and team building events.  Consider the SoSooper workshops to be just that:  your family team brainstorming bonanza.

The goal of these guided discussions is to strengthen the relationship within YOUR super family. 

Family meeting. Parents with kids.

Family meeting having fun. Parents with children.

We present a fresh perspective SO THAT YOUR family can benefit by exploring it together.  

We pose questions you might not have thought to ask.

That’s normal; you have been managing the busy daily routine.  The answers to the questions you explored remain for you.  The process of mutual exploration is for you.  The thrill of discovery of each other is for you.  The memory of creating solutions together is for you.  The ease of life that comes from your personalized solutions is for YOU.

Hope this answers your questions.  We love hearing them so keep on asking.

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