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Le Cadeau du Jour sur le calendrier de l’avent Joy. Peace. Love. @ Home

2 coupes de cheveux pour enfants offerts lorsque vous vous faîtes une coupe
par Adrien Bracon, Coiffeur à Domicile

Comment recevoir ce cadeau ? Faites le quizz amusant du Calendrier de l’Avent pour Parents aujourd’hui, et vous avez l’opportunité de gagner le cadeau grâce à notre tirage au sort. N’hésitez plus, la chance est avec vous !

Votre cadeau aujourd’hui. Une coupe de cheveux MODE, chez vous, avec Adrien Bracon.
Adrien offre une réduction pour une coupe de femme (aujourd’hui pour 60 €) ainsi que la coupe offerte pour deux enfants.

Élégante de la tête aux pieds

Quand j’étais enceinte de notre premier fils, je me demandais si je pouvais garder mon style. Les mères continuent-elles à marcher en talons hauts et à porter des jupes bien ajustées avec des bijoux qui claquent?

L’une des joies de vivre à Paris, c’est de voir des mamans chics se pavaner dans la rue. Habillés à la dernière mode (avec des jambes ornées de Gambettes de My Little Paris!), elles promènent les poussettes, font la bise aux enfants devant l’école, se posent devant la boulangerie pendant les enfants y achètent la baguette quotidienne …

Elles sont élégantes de la tête aux pieds.

Ces femmes maîtrisent les accessoires de mode clés: la coupe de cheveux et les chaussures.

L’attention aux détails de la tête et des pieds transforme votre “Look”. Vous marchez et vous vous portez différemment. Et même un simple T-shirt prend un virage à la mode lorsque vous le portez avec une coiffure flatteuse et des chaussures à la mode.

La Coiffure à Domicile avec Adrien Bracon

Qui a été nommé un des 5 coups de cœur de beauté à la maison du magazine Elle ? Adrien Bracon !

Elle magazine lorsque Adrien s’est lancé comme un coiffeur à domicile après quatorze ans chez le salon de haute coiffure Jean-Marc Maniatis.

Notre famille l’apprécié depuis des décennies.

Voici comment se passe une coupe avec Adrien:

Fixer le rendez-vous

Nous fixons un rendez-vous (généralement par SMS) environ une semaine à l’avance et nous réservons assez de temps pour qu’il nous coiffe tous les six (maman, papa et quatre garçons soucieux des cheveux) en une seule séance.

Préparation Facile
Boy getting a haircut

Adrien Bracon “coiffer-ing” at homePréparation facileEn préparation de son arrivée, nous installons un tabouret dans le salon (nous avons des planchers en bois, d’autres personnes transforment une salle de bain ou la cuisine en salon de coiffure). Préparez une surface plane à proximité où il peut posé son matériel.

Adrien arrive avec la protection à porter pendant la coupe et avec ses ciseaux, l’eau parfumée pour la pulvérisation, et le miroir pour admirer les résultats.

Technique Pro

Sa technique et sa formation lui permettent de couper les cheveux quand ils sont secs. Cela rend le salon à la maison plus facile pour vous et moi aussi.

Parfait avec les enfants

Un père lui-même, Adrien, a aussi l’habitude de travailler avec les enfants. Ils sont plus détendus pour se faire couper les cheveux quand ils sont dans un environnement familier et confortable. Et, puisqu’ils ont pu jouer et câliner avec vous jusqu’au moment de la coupe, vos bambins sont en pleine forme.

Au revoir, au revoir le “Chut. Comportez-vous! ” que vous disiez au salon du coin.

Avec Adrien vous obtenez une coupe de qualité, une conversation décontractée dans un confort douillet.

Sur la tête de notre famille, Adrien a “Carte Blanche”.

 

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Smile … all day

Today’s Gift on the Joy. Peace. Love. @ Home advent calendar for parents

3 beauty pouches “Colibri” (just the right size for lipstick or pencils)
from Beija Flore  

How to receive this gift?  Take the fun quiz on the Parent Advent Calendar today and you could be the lucky one to win the draw.

Trousses Colibri de Beija Flore

Beija Flore is offering THREE pouches.  Will you change your lipstick pouch with the seasons … or enjoy a mother-daughter duo…or give one to your mother-in-law (with a smile, of course)?  Thanks to their generosity, you get to choose.

Beija Flore makes practical pouches with beautiful Liberty fabrics.  Colorful, they are easy to find in the purse.  Stylish, they are delightful to pull out in fpublic.  Practical, they fit the necessities for mom and child

Beauty pouch necessities for maman:

  • a lip pencil,
  • a small mirror
  • several lipsticks

Beauty pouch necessities for child:

  • a few band-aids
  • a tube of arnica granules.
    Arnica speeds up healing…and the slightly sweet granules melting on a child’s tongue soothes physical and emotional “booboos” alike

 

Life-Changing Power of Smiles

Did you know that a smile changes life?

Harvard Business School professor, Amy Cuddy, shares in her TedTalk how “faking it” (the smile) enables one to make it (to stimulate happiness hormones so that we authentically feel better.)

Smiling people attract attention.

As a start-up I attend multiple events with notable speakers…and, after their talk, I regularly go up to comment.  People recognize me.  “I saw you in the room.  You were smiling.

And a smile makes a difference for your child too.

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Changing Home-life with Smiles

Try this.

Call your child over.

(CHILD’s NAME)!

They might come hesitantly.  When you and I call our children’s name it is often for what they might interpret as “bad news”:  a chore to be done, a request to hurry, a correction…

This time, when your kids responds to your summons, just smile at them.  With your lips, your eyes, and your tone of voice as you share how wonderful it is to have them in the family.

Smiling Results

As you do this occasionally, several changes occur;

  • A new you – you become aware of your tone of voice as you call the children. Next time you want them to pick up their dirty shoes from the front hallway, you might even call them over to first smile (connect), then clean up (correct)
  • A new response from the children – Can we blame the kids for dragging their feet when they know it’s for parent-imposed work? Wouldn’t you respond differently if you wondered, “What will they have to say this time?”

One Mom’s story

One mother shared this:

We live in a house with a spiral staircase.  I’m often in the kitchen and the children are upstairs.  I used to feel that I was shouting at them all the time to come down and DO (set the table, do homework, pick up…)

Then I decided to call them to BE together.  Instead of shouting (!) their name while standing at the kitchen sink, I would physically move my body to the bottom of the stairs where I could speak their name and they could hear it.

They would scramble down…and I would pat on one the steps so we could look at each other eye-to-eye.

Mom: “Tell me one great thing about your day, darling.

And we spoke for one or two minutes.  Just the two of us.  Without the interruption of his brother and sister.

Mom: “Thanks, sweetheart.  Enjoy playing…and remind me, what happens when the buzzer rings?”

He’s already running off while answering, “Clean up toys!”

The volume went down in our home, the chores still got done, and the joy went up.

One Child’s Story

And here’s what another child shared:

“I like it when you have that lip stuff.  I can see your smile when you’re far away.”

Don’t leave home without your lipstick snuggled into your Liberty fabric lipstick pouch 🙂

Stay in Style

Today’s Gift on the Joy. Peace. Love. @ Home advent calendar for parents

2 haircuts for children offered when Mom gets her hair cut
by Adrien Bracon, Coiffeur à Domicile, Hair Stylist at home

How to receive this gift?  Take the fun quiz on the Parent Advent Calendar today and you could be the lucky one to win the draw.

Your gift today.  One. Hot. Hairdo. Chez Vous. By Adrien Bracon.
Adrien is providing a discount for a regular woman’s cut (today for 60€) as well as the trim of two children’s hair for free.

Stylish from Head to Toe

When I was pregnant with our first son, I wondered if I could keep up my style.  Do mothers continue to walk in high heels and wear snugly fitted skirts with bangling jewels?

One of the joys of living in Paris is seeing chic mothers strut the street. Dressed in the latest fashion (with legs adorned in Gambettes from My Little Paris!), they push strollers along, wave good-bye to children going off to school, pause outside the bakery as the kids buy the daily baguette…

They’re stylish from head to toe.

These women LOOK stylish from head to toe BECAUSE they mastered key fashion accessories:  the hair-cut and the shoes.

Attention to detail with head and feet transform your look.  They change the way you walk and hold yourself.  And even a simple T-shirt takes on a fashionable turn when you wear it with a flattering coiffure and trendy footwear.

Adrien Bracon – How To

Boy getting a haircut
Adrien Bracon “coiffer-ing” at home

You can read about Adrien in Elle magazine where he was featured when he left Jean-Marc Maniatis haute coiffure hair salon to launch out on his own as a Coiffeur à Domicile, hairstylist at home.

Our family has enjoyed his art and company for decades.  Here’s how it goes:

Schedule the Appointment

We schedule a rendez-vous (usually via text messaging) about one week in advance.  He snips and styles all six of us (Mom, Dad, and four hair-conscious boys) in one sitting.

Easy Preparation

In preparation for his arrival we set up a stool in the living room (we have wooden floors.  Other folk transform a bathroom or the kitchen into the hair salon).  Do prepare a flat surface nearby where he can put his equipment.

Adrien arrives with the protection to wear during the cut and with his scissors, fragrant water for spraying, and mirror to admire the results.

Master Technique

His technique and training enable him to cut hair when it is dry.  It makes salon-at-home easier for you and me too.

Great with Kids

A father himself, Adrien, is experienced in working with children too.  They are more relaxed getting their hair cut in a familiar and comfy environment.  And, since they have been able to play and cuddle with you right up until snip-time, your tots are in prime shape.

Bye, bye the “Hush.  Behave yourself!” at the local salon.

With Adrien you get a quality cut, casual conversation in cozy comfort.

On our family’s heads, Adrien has “Carte Blanche.”

 

Family Happy New Year

Favorite family activity to wish a SoSooper New Year!

The Family Feedback

One of our most precious family moments comes after Christmas. That’s when we share what each person does well and how we can be even stronger as an individual and as a family.

We” means the kids start with the feedback and Mom & Dad L.I.S.T.E.N.

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The structured process keeps discussion positive.  Each child gets to share:
One Great Thing that Mom or Dad do
(and the kids want them to keep doing)
– One Thing they would like to Change about Family Life
(it would hugely improve family life for them)

PARENTS LISTEN.

You may be surprised by the suggestions!

Some “To change” suggestions could be a no-brainer “YES.”  One child asked, “Please, no more lemon cake.”

Other requests could merit deeper discussion.  (“More screen time.”  “No veggies.”)  Talk it over while everyone is calm and together.

The Family Feedback works with kids of all ages

with teens

Teen boys

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Family meeting with parents and kids

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SoSooper prepared some worksheets for you:

  • to prepare
  • to succeed
  • to remember

Click here to get your free downloads.

 

We’d love to hear from you.  Give us YOUR feedback too in the comments below!

 

Cover photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash

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The Family Feedback with little children

How much can your young child tell you about YOUR job as a parent?

Quite a lot.

By listening you share encouraging words for your kids.

The Family Feedback with tots

The Family Feedback is ONE GREAT FAMILY TIME where kids give feedback to parents. They start with the good stuff 🙂 and move onto deeper discussion.  Read more here.

For very young kids, we stick to sharing family highlights.  

You want your kids to associate “family” with “fun”?  Then ask them to tell you about a fun time with Mom or Dad.  This strengthens the neural messaging in their brains so that they can more easily access memories of great times as a family.

Our brain is amazing…and malleable.

Ask, “Tell me about a time you felt really happy with us.”

“When we played ball together.”

Help your child fully recall with the experience through specific and factual questions.

“What color was our ball?” “Was it before or after lunch?” “Who else was playing with us?”

Then gently probe for what generated the positive emotions.

“What was soooooo great?” “Which part made you feel the most special?”  “What did you do to show you were happy?”

Thank your child.  

“Your telling me when you were happy makes me very happy too.  Thanks, Darling.”

We tried it & loved it

Here’s what one mother shared after a SoSooper workshop where she and her three year old daughter enjoyed such a conversation:

“My daughter was probably a little bit young (only 3) and I think was struggling to really engage with the activities. However, even though she dealt with it on her level, I think she still got a lot out of the experience – and found it nice that it was a time where mummy was ready to listen to her and find out what she found fun and loving about being in our family.

This workshop reminded me that we do all right as a family (eating together, playing together, respecting each other). As I’m sure you know only too well – it’s a tricky job, mummying, and can seem very unrewarding sometimes. If I were a business, (actually I’m a secondary school teacher) I wouldn’t put up with clients who were so demanding and so seemingly ungrateful for all my efforts. I think what you’re doing is so important – just like in any job, you have training for that ‘shot in the arm’ of enthusiasm and clarity to do your job better every day. Parents need that more than anyone!”

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SoSooper prepared some worksheets for you:

  • to prepare
  • to succeed
  • to remember

Click here to get your free downloads.

Cover photo by Jerry Kiesewetter on Unsplash

Happy Birthday Wishes – Million $ Dollar Birthday Chair

One of our favorite Happy Birthday wish is to seat that special person in The Birthday Chair.

High Bang for Buck Happy Birthday Wishes

Boy blowing up balloons for birthday party
Wishing himself a Happy Birthday! “Can I help decorate the Birthday Chair?”
Happy birthday chair
Happy Birthday Wishes for ME!
Brother giving happy birthday wishes
Happy Birthday Wishes serenaded with the kazoo!

This balloon-decorated chair gets big bang out of little time, energy, and funds…and it does it every year. For less than $1, your precious child feels like $1 Million!

Decorate one chair BIG TIME: at least 6 balloons and as many streamers. The chair goes in the middle of the room where the kids (of all ages) gather for the presents.  At Birthday Cake time, he gets the star seat.  It’s the throne on which he reigns during the Birthday Story Telling.

Make it ultra special by kindly yet firmly reserving it for the birthday child; it’s part of letting him know he is one precious kid.

Happy Birthday Wishes – Telling the Birthday Story

Do you know what happened the day you were born? Loads of people—and surely your child—want to know about theirs.

Regale your precious one with nuggets of news.

“Dad admired you first. Mom could not see past her tummy!”

“When I took you in my arms, I discovered an additional love. It wasn’t sharing the love I had for others; it was MORE.”

“You were almost born in the taxi!”

Easy Peezy Happy Birthday Wishes

– Tie up balloons into bunches of three.

We use extra-long strands of ribbon and curl the edges…à la gift wrap.

Why 3’s? One three-balloon group has LOADS more impact than three singles. Try it; you’ll be convinced too.

By the way, florists recommend displaying flowers in odd numbers (think 13 red roses, but not next to the balloons).

– Use multiple colors, sizes, and shapes of balloons.

(If you’re using long balloons, include two long ones in your bundle of three, and choose your colors intelligently. Word from the embarrassed wizened!)

– Tie the bundles to the chair so that balloons are visible from all angles…think photo opportunity.

– Throw curly-cue party streamers on top of the concoction…even better, get the siblings or your child’s friends to do so. The Birthday Chair will gain in precious-ness.

The kids revel in the Birthday Chair every year. Grandma does too.

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Grandma, in her Birthday Chair, sharing her happy wishes…at the liberation of Paris after WWII!
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Oh, the Happy Birthday fun for kids of all ages in the Birthday Chair.

Family Feedback Peek-a-boo—To Mom, be more generous. To child, learn through a job.

We are coming to a close of our Family Feedback of 2013. One son remains to give and receive his feedback with his parents.  This is the fourth in the series of posts to give you a glimpse into one our most precious and powerful family moments.

Click here for our How To’s.

Read on to learn how my son told me to be more generous and I encouraged him to grow by working simple jobs of manual labor or service.

We are seated at the dinner table and the boys chose to go around in the order of seating. It’s our second son who finally got the floor.

Son (17 years):  “Mom, what I really appreciate is your flexibility with letting me spend time (like the night) with my girlfriend.”

This is a very delicate issue between us because his behavior is in contradiction with my values.  Yet, you see, my job as a parent is to provide him with an education and to present him with a set of values.  He graduated from high school this summer and now lives out of our home.  My role as a mother has evolved now:   to allow my son to fly with his own wings.   I did my BEST while he was under our roof.   It is his life, not mine.  I have made mistakes and learned some of my best lessons from them. He too will blunder.  He might choose some or none of my values for his life.  He will live with the consequences of those choices.

With regards to my life and beliefs, I try to follow Jesus Christ.   Try.  Because invariably I fail. But  Jesus loves me.  Still.  So, if I follow Christ, I am to love.  Still.  And loving my son now means to be “less of me and more of him.”

Mom:  “I’m glad you appreciate it.”

Son: “I really don’t have a way where you could change…”

This is our son who has complained and COMPLAINED about …everything and anything.  He’s an expert at finding faults (and over the years he’s also learned to identify and encourage others’ strengths).

Son: “…ah yes.  You didn’t do it this year for Christmas, but sometimes you offer people the gifts you would like to receive.”

Mom:  “What do you mean, exactly?”

Son: “Last year you gave everyone kitchen tools.  The ceramic knife, the knife holder, the latest fashion cookbook…you used them all.”

Embarrassingly, this is all true!

Mom:  “I see (all too clearly) what you mean.”

Son:  “Ok, what about me?”

Mom: “What you have done excellently last year is master your schoolwork.  You graduated with honors. Intelligence contributes to these results, but you also worked for those grades.  You exhibited discipline and determination…along with balance in your social and spiritual dimensions of life.  And it was not just last year.  This year your academic demands are even heftier and you’re at the top of your class and keeping up with a life.”

Dad:  “You’re ranked N°1 in your class?”

Son: “Didn’t you know?”

Banter between son and father where the younger bull gets to show off his size and the senior one grunts his consent.

Mom:  “And what you could do to change is considering getting a job.  Try working for money.  The jobs you’ll have at your age are mostly entry level manual labor or service positions.  It’s a good thing to know first-hand the value of sweat and smile.”

Son: “I’ve thought of that.  But you see, I don’t feel the neeeeeed to work yet.  (oh, oh!)  I work at school and then deserve a vacation.  I can afford not to work now.”

Mom:You can afford it?  Who’s paying for your time off?  Until when?  Why?

Now that you have more of the privileges of adulthood, isn’t time that you also take on more of those responsibilities too?”

Quiet.

Mom:  “Aagh!  It’s tough when you want to eat your cake and keep it too!” (In French we say, ‘To have the butter and the money for the butter.’ ‘Avoir le beurre et l’argent du beurre.’)

We can all relate…and smile.

Dad: “Are we finished with the analysis and mutual-flagellation?”

Everyone:  “Poooooor Dad!”  “If it were THAT bad, why did you stay with us?” “Yes, dear ”

Mom: “Everyone clear his plate and takes at least one other thing back to the kitchen!”

Thus closed the evening meal and the Family Annual Review.

Our comments now hang in our Frame of Fame…where they’ll stay several weeks and re-appear from time to time over the year…as the need to be humble, be generous, think before speaking, advance step-by-step, or dress one’s age arises.

In this series:  Family Annual Review Peek-a-boo

Enjoy the whole shebang!

  1. To Mom, be clear.  To child, be humble.
  2. To Mom, be flexible.  To child, go step by step.
  3. To Mom, stop being a fashion victim.  To child, think before you speak.
  4. To Mom, be generous.  To child, learn through a job.

Family Annual Review How To’s