Today’s Gift on the Joy. Peace. Love. @ Home advent calendar for parents
One hour of Family Coaching
with Jane Mobille, PCC Professional Certified Coach working with executives, individuals, and familiesÂ
How to receive this 1 hour off on a Family Coaching session? Take the fun quiz on the Parent Advent Calendar today and you could be the lucky one to win the draw.
What is Family Coaching?
A family coaching session is a special kind of confidential conversation between a coach, and a family wishing to explore a specific issue causing tension among members at home. The coach receives the family with compassion, curiosity, and non-judgment. Each member of the family has the opportunity to share their perspective on the situation while the others listen. The coach leads the family in an exploration of choices and impacts. The goal is to come up with a few actions to implement in order to reach a solution which satisfies the needs of each family member.
As the teen shared with Jane in his text message:Â PHEW!
The Generational Paradigm Gap
Do you expect your children to share your priorities?
We often hope so. In an ideal world, the children would brush their teeth without needing reminding, they would be ready on time to go to school, and they would be motivated for school work and have a vision for their future.
Reality check.
Our children like to play, get distracted and want attention, and simple tasks can take forever to accomplish.
Parents and kids see the world through different lenses. This paradigm gap creates stress in families.
Today’s gift helps create bridges between the mother, father, and children’s perspectives.
Jane is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) currently coaching executives at Kedge Business School and leading her own practice for executives, individuals, and families. She especially enjoys coaching teens and young adults as they build confidence, make intentional choices, and live a life of curiosity. Jane is a contributing author for the online magazine, INSPIRELLE, and editor of AAWE News.
In short, Jane excels in communication:
- listening,
- expressing herself,
- helping you and your children listen, and
- creating a safe environment to express yourselves.
What Does my Child See?
A friend, Vincent Cassigneul, recently took this picture
- Of a blurry Eiffel Tower
or - Of a clearly focused man taking a picture of the Eiffel Tower
Vincent chose to focus on the admirer of the Eiffel Tower in her flashing glory, as opposed to the monument herself. We usually see this majestic monument towering over Paris, occupying center stage.
Did he “get it all wrong”? Did I?
Or should we be asking a different question?
The Wife and Mother-in-Law go to Harvard
An optical illusion used by Stephen Covey further helps us understand that process.
In his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Covey shares an example from a Harvard Business School class. Everyone was shown the same optical illusions. ONLY he had prepared people differently. One half of the class had previously seen a sketch of a haggard, old woman and the other half had been given a drawing of a chic lady.
Well, half the class found the woman in the optical illusion attractive and the other half quite the opposite. Tensions rose over the disagreement.
Finally, some students began to ask questions, and listen.
“See this line. That’s the old woman’s mouth.”
“Oh, for us it is the chic lady’s necklace!”
And exploration ensued until all the students could identify BOTH women depicted in the optical illusion.
Are you and your child at each other’s throats unnecessarily too?
Try asking questions to understand your child’s perspective.
A tool, like this optical illusion or Vincent’s photo (graciously made available to us, thank you), can help launch the discussion.
Parent to the child: “What do you see?”
Child answers.
Parent purposefully and playfully takes an opposing stand. “What?! This photo is NOT about the Eiffel Tower!” or “This is a drawing of ONE. O.L.D. woman.”
Let your child react.
Then explore.
“Tell me what you see and point with your finger.”
How to start?!
This conversation sounds easy, but it’s harder to launch in real life.
(That’s where Jane Mobille’s family coaching brings resolution to communication blockages and harmony returns to the family.)
Try starting these paradigm discovery conversations at home.
Want the Wife and Mother-in-Law optical illusion and the photo of the Eiffel Tower? Sign up here and we’ll send them to you tomorrow….along with the news of who won the Family Coaching special offer by Jane Mobille.
Jane can be reached at jam.atlantic@gmail.com
